Daily Q&A Time for Private Messages: About Confusion and Self-Growth

You're not starting too early with open-mindedness; you're thinking too much and have limited resources.
When a person begins to realize:
Family finances are changing, their abilities are limited, future competition will be fierce, social opportunities are fleeting, but there’s no clear path, no mentor, no stable support system, anxiety will be amplified.
This is not your fault.
Your current state is actually cognitive awakening,
but your ability reserves haven't caught up yet.
This stage is very painful,
but it’s not the end, it’s a transitional period.
Many people who truly succeed later on
have gone through a period like yours.
You ask if it’s necessary to study hard in high school?
My answer is: Yes.
But learn to plan your time reasonably.
Not because grades mean everything,
but because when you lack economic capital, social connections, and resources,
education is the lowest-cost, most reversible card.
What you should do now is not find the “ultimate ideal,”
but focus on “ability accumulation.”
Your current pain comes from a misconception:
Everyone else is taking off at the opportunity, but I’m stuck in place.
The real chance to seize,
is often the behind-the-scenes support that many people don’t see.
The real issue isn’t “riding the wave,” but:
Have you cultivated “transferable skills”?
For example: English, writing, focus, screening ability, aesthetic sense, logical thinking...
These skills can be used regardless of what you do in the future.
Studying abroad is not a reset button.
It’s just a change of environment.
If you:
Lack self-discipline, have unstable emotions, face financial pressure, or have vague goals,
studying abroad might amplify these problems.
Your current problem isn’t your body,
but:
anxiety about your self-image.
“Starving yourself for a few months” is a warning sign.
True attractiveness comes from your state, not your weight. (See my profile picture)
Regarding your high sensitivity,
you should use your analytical skills for growth, not self-attack.
You don’t need to rush to solve “intimate relationship issues” now.
Instead, focus on stability—emotional stability, regular routines.
Your core pain points are:
Financial dependence, lack of independent thinking,
a sense of losing control over the future, helplessness in the present,
Breaking through isn’t about sudden success.
The real breakthrough point is
from “grand anxiety” back to “concrete actions.”
Cognition is ahead of resources.
Ambition is high, but skills are still in development.
This isn’t a dead end; it’s growing pains.
And your asking questions itself shows:
You haven’t given up.
Don’t rush,
make yourself more structured,
take it slow.